One of the most important days of your life will unduly be your wedding day.
It will carry an importance to you that you will not soon forget. The process of getting to that day is also something that will not fade in your memory. The phrase, "Nothing that is worth having ever comes easily," is no truer than when you plan your wedding. The day can be a glorious one, or it can be a flop. The difference is in the planning and attention that you put into it.
Weddings are expensive, so it is imperative that from the very beginning, you stay true to who you are, and what type of wedding would be meaningful for you. Remember, while there are many people to consider, absolutely it will be you and your future spouse that will have to live with the decisions.
It's very easy to get cooked up in the romance, building a wedding to massive proportions, but remember that simplicity can definitely work to your advantage. So before you jump head first into a year (or two) of wedding planning bliss, here are some tips to help you along the way:
Keep in mind that this is not your wedding alone, it belongs to both you and your partner. This means that while you may have thought long and hard about this day, it may not cater to your partner's wishes, desires, culture, and traditions. So when you start planning, be open to each other. Keep in mind that it is as much their day as it is yours.
Create a Secure Social Support Network:
When you first get engaged, brides often start thinking about who will be in their wedding party, and what type of dress they want, flowers, etc. Then in a whirlwind, phone calls are made requesting good friends to be in the wedding party. That's not a bad thing, but without planning ahead, you can easily find yourself having made some big promises and paying dearly for them later.
This is a big day, think about who will be there to provide support to you. You may have many great weekend friends that are always up for a great party, but will they be willing to put in the time and effort it takes to be in a wedding party?
While your friends, family, and acquaintances express a sincere happiness for the new chapter in your life, they may not have the time to invest into being there for you. Many brides I've known have broken down because they've come to the conclusion too late that their support systems were almost nonexistent. With some careful thought and planning, you can create the support group that will help you on this journey.
Keep Your Sanity:
Your wedding will consume you if you let it. Remember that before you were engaged, you did other things outside of picking out jewelry, matching color schemes, choosing fabrics, and picking out dinnerware.
Bring the fun back into your life and pick a day each week to relax and enjoy yourselves. Declare it a wedding free day. Do not discuss the money being spent, the planning that has yet to be done, invitations, or DJ's. Just go out and have fun.
Set Your Budget:
One of the most common reasons for marriage breaks is due to finances. And one of the largest purchases you will have to incur (whether you are paying for it, or you are receiving help from your parents) will be your wedding. Whoever is involved in paying for the wedding should sit down with each other and set a budget that is reasonable for everyone.
Keep it Lighthearted:
Keep in mind that while your wedding is important to you, it may not be everyone else's favorite topic. They may not feel the same passion that you do about your choice of hors' dourves, or your original design of bridesmaids dresses. What I'm saying is, "Keep it lighthearted." Your wedding will come together, but no matter how much preparation you've done, inevitably, something will not go quite as you had planned. Remember that your wedding is not doomed because the flowers you chose are not the exact shade of the lavender of your bridesmaid dresses. It's not what happens, it's how you handle it. Some of the best memories are built on pure accidents.
When my sister got married, a strong windstorm had knocked down all the power lines in the neighborhood where the church was located. Without electricity, there would be no church organ music, no microphone for the soloist, and no lights, undetected a nightmare for the videographer. But what my sister got instead was a ceremony done completely all by candlelight. Not only did it bring romance to the atmosphere of the ceremony, but it greeted warmth to all our hearts. Now who could have planned for that?